The compassion you have for others has a magical power to heal your own aching heart at a time of bereavement. Therefore, one of the best medicines for your grief is listening to other grievers. This simple act relieves you because there is no room in you for self-pity when your mind is engulfed by thoughts of others, but not you or anything that is yours. Unlike self-pity, compassion is outbound, meaning it springs from your core and flows outwards. The ultimate result is that you loosen up the tightness in your chest.