The compassion you have for others has a magical power to heal your own aching heart at a time of bereavement. Therefore, one of the best medicines for your grief is listening to other grievers. This simple act relieves you because there is no room in you for self-pity when your mind is engulfed by thoughts of others, but not you or anything that is yours. Unlike self-pity, compassion is outbound, meaning it springs from your core and flows outwards. The ultimate result is that you loosen up the tightness in your chest.
Healing journey is a unique experience to individuals. The time it takes to heal can vary from person to person and there could be unpredictable ups and downs throughout. This whole experience depends on various factors related to our personality, the kind of support we get, our circumstances etc. Knowing our path ahead helps us skilfully emerge from our distress. Here are some common tendencies in a bereavement and healing experience, so that you know what to expect from your healing journey.
You might wonder what it is like to survive the bereavement, if you are at the very early stage of coping with death of a beloved. At this point, you may not be able to imagine that anything can actually make you feel better over time. Mind you, it is crucial to heal and possible to heal. There is help out there for you to come out of suffering. Your healing journey opens up for you the moment you are ready. But don't expect that you will go back to where you were, after undergoing the healing process. In fact, you will be better in many ways than one.
We all agree that premature death is natural for plants and animals. However, we subconsciously expect every human born in this world to span the full lifecycle, owing to the advancements in science and technology today. But in reality, we could never overcome death because we too are bound by the nature's law. See this reality existing in everything, everywhere in the environment and around you, so you won't feel alone in losing a loved one. The truth is, every one of us is a potential candidate to experience bereavement. It is just a matter of time.